Comments on: people will just be people?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 09 Dec 2006 11:07:46 +0000

usually people have a habit of saying to others “so yer making the big bucks eh?” I think of it as a normal command and just respond “i’m doin ok”

if you go to pakistan 80% of people will ask you your salary. and plus they want you to translate it into rupees per month for them. nosy.

By: ahmedre

ahmedre — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 13:14:59 +0000

anonymous -
1. for many of us, there’s more opportunity here in america and i agree – however, its one thing to think there’s opportunity, and its another thing to think that people in america live in palaces and so on. people don’t really realize that whatever costs them x pounds back home costs us x dollars here, and if they’re making a salary of x pounds/month, then our salary is $x/month. maybe overall, the buying power of the dollar is more, but that doesn’t make us better and higher class than others – moreover, people often forget other blessings that they have that can’t be bought with money…

2. *shrugs* – sometimes its just irksome… its mainly that people want to assume things about you just based on a fact when it doesn’t necessarily mean anything.

3. yes – but the Prophet (SAW) said, “min 7osn iman el mar2 tarkuhu ma la yu3nee” – roughly translated that from the good (signs?) of belief of a person is that he leaves things that don’t concern him. sometimes, too much prying into people’s lives makes them uncomfortable and its not good – at the very least, people should understand and get the message sometimes, you know?

maybe i am more sensitive about it than others, but its my right to demand privacy in such aspects of my life. in any case, maybe as you said i need to be more lenient, or simply be more assertive at times.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 02 Dec 2006 04:19:10 +0000

1. These people get their ideas from movies. And althought people may not have money falling out of their pockets, they do have a much greater opportunity for that to happen in America than abroad.

2. I don’t see a problem if someone says to another person your are making big bucks or you are very rich. Maybe because no one says it to me. Just say Alhamdulillah, I am doing alright.

3. People are generally curious. Salary can be a sensitive issue to some but others don’t mind asking and telling.

It seems like you are more sensitive than others regarding money issues, so perhaps you need to give others some leniency or a “handicap” if they make any such remarks because people will be people.

By: ahmedre

ahmedre — Wed, 29 Nov 2006 22:51:59 +0000

anonymous – not exactly, but close enough

djihed – yeah… i think that’s the problem, if you are too nice to people, they don’t hesitate to take advantage of you… sometimes its just too difficult to tell someone off, but i guess if you don’t do it, people won’t hesitate…

the sad part is people don’t get the message… some guy, for example, asked me how much i paid for something… i said, “well it depends on the parts you put in it…” – so he asked again, “yeah so how much did you pay?” – so i was like, “i am not sure yet its not done and it all depends on the value of the parts so the price ranges” (aka *stop asking me i don’t want to tell you!*) – and rather than get the message, they ask again, “yeah but how much did YOU spend?” — at which point i had to answer.

i understand that with certain things, this is understandable – for example, if my friend wants to buy a car, and i just bought one, he may ask me how much i paid so he knows how much to expect to pay for it if he seriously want to buy one… but when its something that has nothing to do with me in anyway whatsoever, why should i ask? but people do anyway…

By: djihed

djihed — Tue, 28 Nov 2006 15:20:42 +0000

Dude, if anybody gets on your skin, just ignore them, and when needed, just stop and tell them off firmly. Your nerves are too precious to burn on some idiot

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 28 Nov 2006 02:22:01 +0000

so i’m thinking you talked to your relatives recently.